Recommended Reading

The New Manhood
by Steve Biddulph

For an excellent general start to reading about Men’s psychological help – I found Steve Biddulph’s book ‘The New Manhood’ very helpful.

It provides an excellent introduction to how men suffer and why. I found it helped me to understand some of the possible reasons behind the suffering and new ways to look at living a more fulfilled life. A very good start I believe.

p.s. If your budget is tight, I have seen many copies of his older books available in second hand shops. (link here to Steve’s website)

Understanding the Mid-life Crisis
by Peter O’Connor

Perhaps this book is for AFTER you have read Steve Biddulph’s book. OConner’s book looks at how men, when they get to around mid-life, try to resist the awakening of deeper aspects of themselves, and instead, revert back to early behaviours. Rather than accept and integrate change in life, and allow the necessary transitions of inner growth, men find it easier to simply behave more like they did when they were teenagers. Trying to seek refuge in being “more” man-like instead of opening to their more sensitive aspects. I highly enjoyed this Jungian view of the challenges men face in mid-life.

I found my copy through Amazon.

King, Warrior, Magician, Lover
by Robert Moore & Douglas Gillette

One of my favourite paths of study is in Jungian, Depth Psychology (Carl Gustav Jung). This book has been a joy to read. It focuses on four archetypes that, when considered in their mature aspects, can give helpful guidance in where a man’s strengths may be enhanced.

When a man focuses on giving, helping and serving the common good, his life takes on a whole new meaning, purpose and fulfilment.

One of the classics.
Iron John
by Robert Bly

A fascinating mix of history and mythology. An excellent read.

Owning Your Own Shadow
by Robert A Johnson

Johnson has written many books, some of my favourites, from a Jungian perspective. Often complex in looking at human psychology using Greek mythological stories to do so. This book is quite straight forward in understanding how we have both conscious and unconscious aspects of our psyche and how we need to be as conscious as we may as to what we do with our unconscious projections – and how to connect with the wholeness of who we are.

The Way of the Superior Man
by David Deida

Half-way through this book but finding it very interesting, down to earth ideas of living a fulfilled life. David Deida encourages being authentic to your masculinity and gives some very helpful understanding of the masculine-feminine relationships.

The Middle Passage
by James Hollis

If you enjoy Jungian psychology you may enjoy this. I thoroughly enjoyed this book. There was something vey easy to read in contemplating the mid-life challenge and blessings. I found many ideas and quotes that I had to share in the Men’s Group each week, to stimulate thinking about how better to open to the fullness of life, especially in the Midlife passage.

A Circle of Men is a book that has been around for a long time. An excellent resource if you are contemplating setting up a men’s support circle. It includes the history of the recent men’s support group work and gives many excellent ideas on what to try out in your group. Includes plans for what you could include in the first 8 meetings as well as how to deal with possible challenges to the smooth flow of the work.